How an overseas girl becomes a leftover woman in China

A spoiled child in China
Being a spoiled child in China for doing nothing at all, someone even has never thrown a rubbish bag or knows how to use a vacuum cleaner, let alone doing housework, cooking or paying bills, that’s not her business.

A girl who only focuses on studying, studying so that she can get high marks in order to enter into a reputable uni and find a decent job.

One day, she leaves her parents and settles down in a completely new country.

There are two choices: she can either return back to China or being independent surviving in a new world.

To be independent in Australia
Therefore, from the first day she arrives in Australia, she has to rely on herself. For example, renting a house, cheap nfl hats, buying furniture, shopping, doing laundry, paying bills and finding a part time job while doing a full-time study.

She gives up princess life in China to be a Cinderella in Australia.

In addition, the girl has limited time shopping, no time for makeup, hands are getting rougher, she could be careless about fashionable clothes and it is normal to use an out-of-date mobile.

Emily
My friend, Emily, in one Chinese term: White, Rich and Beautiful.

Can you image, one day when I visited her, you know, what she’s doing? She’s assembling furniture.

“Wow, you are so smart, that would definitely kill me, I don't think I can handle it”. I said.

By the way, now I can fix small problems for dishwasher, washing machine even toilet while I did not know how to change a light bulb when I was in China.

Because it’s too expensive to find someone to do it in Australia,  there's no choice.

Now I feel multi-talented, haha.

An independent woman could also be elegant for wearing high heels, dress nicely, enjoys life as much as she can, but her mission is not only caring for a specific man, it’s like without the man, replica oakley sunglasses, the whole life is over, she has her own lifestyle and standard.

a left-over woman in China
When Emily goes back to China, she’s becoming a left-over woman.

Most successful guys in their 30s are getting married, the younger ones who are either living with Mum or they are quite unwilling to accept a girl who earns a higher salary with an overseas background, especially who is open-minded.

They prefer a girl who is still playing a traditional wife role, who can take care of them, who can get along very well with mother-in-law after married.

They would like a girl with a beautiful face than with an independent mind.

For Emily, she doesn’t care about  the property, financial things because she can earn money by herself.

She’s looking for someone who understands her, gives her care emotionally, puts her in mind, who can be a responsible future husband.

However, she definitely doesn’t like a man who loves her money or her Australian citizenship, nfl jerseys cheap, so she hides her family and overseas background when she’s in China.

Because she’s looking for an honest, sincere man who gives her true love, who loves her as a person, who can talk with, having fun for being together.

In China, as a single child, most young men are spoilt by parents, he is mum’s boy. Therefore, if a girl with strong opinions, the guy simply has no idea, which side he stands for, Mum or future wife.

Emily
That would be hard for Emily to get along with mum-in-law, with kind of western value, she suggests after marriage, the family life is just between husband and wife, Mum-in-law is not supposed to disturb the couple's personal life.

Future Mum-in-law
With completely traditional Chinese value—future mum-in-law is expecting future daughter-in-law taking care of her husband: "after you marry my son, you are part of my family, I am still in charge of it, I buy an apartment for your marriage, I raise my son with so much effort."

"The time I married my husband, I listened to my mum-in-law for so many years. Now my son will have a wife who would like to ignore me. That makes me angry, absolutely, cheap hats, I would not allow my son to have such an open mind girl."

Emily
That’s funny, I don’t care you buy your son an apartment or not, I only wanna to be with one person, just considering my future husband is so weak, everything listens to Mum, being mum’s lovely boy, then where’s me?

I’d better stay alone than having trouble for dealing with such complicated relations, that would drive me mad.

Independent successful businessmen in China
For those independent men, who are over 30 being successful, most of them are married, as they are rich, cheap MLB Hats, so they are sought after by all the girls.

Those men prefer beautiful girls, Emily is beautiful, but she’s not keen on a successful businessman. Because she doesn’t like someone being home so late every day, getting drunk after business dinner with clients. To be worse, after marriage, he could easily find a younger lover which is popular and could be seldom with his wife.

He cares more about money; he’d better buy Emily a luxury bag than spending time on her.

But Emily doesn’t lack money; she only wants someone who can spoil her with time and care.

Meet a western guy in China
Eventually, one day, cheap nba hats, Emily meets a cute handsome western guy in China.

Yes, they can communicate in English and get along very well, he’s working in Emily’s hometown, what a good chance!!!

After a while, Emily realises that they have the different needs.

Emily wanna find a proper husband and having kids, the western guy just wanna having fun because he doesn’t know his future so he can’t make a commitment to the marriage.


Leftover men and leftover women in China
In recent years, cheap nhl jerseys, there is an increasing number of leftover men and leftover women in China, especially in big cities due to Western value influences traditional Chinese value and some other reasons.

Women are easily in this group if they work in a company with foreigners, or staying overseas for a while, or being very successful or highly educated earning a higher salary.

No one knows what's going on in the future- getting better or worse.

College Ages

Looking back on the past years, I always miss the school ages in my life. I still remember that the first time I went to Shenzhen, there is one big headache thing I have to go through. When I got into the public bus, I want to throw up. I seldom take the bus before college. As time gone, I get used to take bus once a week or twice a week.

The most important person I would like to mention is my dear aunt. When I first come to Shenzhen, nfl jerseys china, she took me to buy some new clothes including skirts. It spend her about RMB 1000. She suggest me that to wear fashionable  in modern city, is it mean that I dressed like a country girl at that time ? Maybe the answer was yes. During those years, I really appreciate for her kindness and generosity to me, I will never forget her love.

I think the college year is unforgettable, although I do not have too much money for living, I read extensively and absorbed new knowledge within my capacity. Compare to the previous personality, cheap Oakley sunglasses, I think not too much change on myself , I am still a simply person with grateful heart as usual. Some classmates I knew in college ages, I treasure them very much. They have been very helpful and sincere.

Falling in ill of my daughter.

The world is fantastic, we almost not to find the truth, For the same to life, it was out of control in this technology development today, it was still many, many that  we can not predict it. It was a wave state of auto-antibody in our body as we grow up. when we are young, we were infected the virus easily, we were contracted by our surroundings, the change of temperature. especially the past of one week, we almost lived  through 4 seasons during this period, some of them were sick because of the terrible weather, my daughter was only one year old, she was infected with a cough within little fever. two days past,  the fever was gone,she was still in the state of cough especially in the morning and during the sleep time of night, she can not eat the cough medicine because of it  was bitter, once she tried and the medicine was easily to spit it out. lt was little effect for cough, we tired to found some medicine within sweet, but can not find it, it is true that good medicine is bitter, although she don't like these medicine, we still try to find and feed to her. As an nu-experience father, they told me that don't worry to much about it, this is easy to say than do, Good news for me that she can eat the bitter medicine this noon finally, Fighting my daughter, you are the best.